(Official music video)
Even though this is a social experiment/prank, the message still speaks volumes. Homophobia is still very much active within the black community. What this video also shows is that you can’t judge a book by its cover. The reason why I say that is despite the few homophobic guys there were also men who stood in support.
They didn’t see “Boss Man” as anything other than what he presented himself as which was an artist. They may not have been gay themselves. They didn’t allow who he was in any way to stop them from backing him up. That took courage and SECURITY within themselves as heterosexual men.
The guys who left out of there not trying to see that “gay shit” were the ones who gave off DL vibes. You know, the down low man ain’t going to want to be PUBLICALLY associated with homosexuality. Even if it was as simple as a damn kiss, they were acting like this man was getting his back blown out.
This video was one of the top viewed videos on my last blog, reaching over 120k views! The video has over 1 million views currently and counting. So I would like to take credit for being a contributor to making that happen. (LOL)
As mentioned above, you can’t assume people will hate you, judge you, reject you for being gay. That goes for strangers in society fellow peers at school and work or even relatives. You don’t know how a person may act when you reveal yourself as an openly gay man.
After watching this video and seeing these men, who weren’t apart of the video stayed in support. That is what I like to take away from watching this video — is the fact that support doesn’t have to be from those who we expect the most. It can be from people. Who we would assume would bash and hate us.
These were random men on the street that they invited to do this video. These men didn’t know shit about the actor. Being able to see those men support and didn’t care about his sexuality shows me that there’s still a little bit of hope.
Being Black And Gay Later In Life | How Do You Plan To Live Your Life As A Elder In The Gay Community?
We live in the moment, and most of us don’t think about life 20-30 years from now.
The generation before us saw how AIDS wiped out their peers. They witnessed an epidemic that damn near destroyed the entire community!
In my honest opinion, I will say that majority of gay men are just roaming through life and not prepared for their future.
For some people, they floated through life blinded. No careers, no goals, no direction in life.
I remember this one gentleman in his late 40’s telling me to “stay focus, stay grounded and never lose sight of your purpose.”
I refuse to be in my 50s and trying to figure out what I’ve wasted the last 30 years doing in my life.
A lot of older black gay men are struggling, and some are homeless and addicted to drugs.
Get active in preparing yourself for a better future.
Selective Homophobia: The Act Of Picking And Choosing The Acceptable Gays!
“Oh, you a cool gay bul. I don’t fuck with a lot of them. You, not a phagget, you cool with me.”
I don’t care if we’re related through marriage or blood. You going to give my fellow brothers the same respect that you give me.
If you don’t fuck with one gay or those gays, then you mind as well not fuck with me.
If you’re homophobic you’re just a homophobe.
I’ve been around countless of selective ass homophobic people.
Gay Relationship Position | Are You The Man Or The Woman? [WTF!]
I usually avoid topics like this on my blog. This was something I couldn’t ignore.
A blank profile (yeah again another dl piece in my DM’s.) Decided to hit me up. I usually avoid these accounts, but I said fuck it. So I responded.
He introduced himself (something most guys don’t even know how to do in 2018!) He told me a few things about himself. I asked for an image (I hate talking to ghost accounts), and he refused. So I was kind of over it, but then he asked me this damn question.
“So are you the man or the woman?”
I’ll let him slide because he explained that he was REALLY DL! He didn’t know shit about gay relationships or gay culture at all. All he knew was that he was a top. So by him not knowing anything, I thought I would inform him. I didn’t want to be ignorant and read and throw shade. I took my time out to educate him about the community.
Yes, some gay men follow the heteronormative but I don’t. I respect those who like to play up specific roles and positions. That’s your relationship you define it as you see fit. For my type of relationship I’m not a woman nor do I desire to be one. I am a man, and I don’t like being referenced as a “woman” or the “submissive one.”
If you like for your top to be the man in the relationship and you his main lady then cool that shit works for you, I don’t want to be labeled as a female in my relationship(s). There will be some days I want to be the aggressive or dominant partner in the relationship. I would only assume that the “man” “top” “dominant figure” in the relationship would not want that at all. So for me, I would feel forced into a role and in a box. I don’t like closed confined spaces. I like being completely liberated and having the freedom of having free will. I don’t want somebody telling me how I should act.
Some people like that role play and it’s sexy to see two men being able to carry out a particular role.
If that makes you happy fulfill it, I noticed “straight identifying” men or the real down low men make these assumptions about gay men in relationships. They assume that certain men who appear to be “feminine” are the women or portray themselves as such. That’s not my case at all. I’m very much masculine and feminine. I don’t feel like I would define myself as a female in my relationship.
I’m sure many of you have dealt with cousins asking this question or random straight men. People make these assumptions based off of what they assume makes sense, which brings out the heteronormative mindset. It’s programmed in people’s minds of having a man and a woman in a relationship, while a lot of people understand that most gay men do not define themselves as women in a relationship. Some people do, and others ignorantly say things like this in a homophobic cruel ass way.
For him, he seemed legit confused. I wasn’t going to be rude to him. I like to educate people on what I know, and he intrigued to understand.
Every person in the gay community may feel differently about this topic. Some people may feel like positions and roles are standard and should be one or the other. Other gay men may not want somebody to reference them as female not even in a gay relationship.
I think if we all respect each other then everything is fine with me. I didn’t see anything wrong with the question it was innocent.
I helped him understand a little bit about a culture that he never been around or involved with.
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