There are two things that I can not change about myself, and that is the fact that I am black and gay. How can somebody incriminate me based off of the fact that I was born this way? You were born this way! None of us had the choice to choose our race or sexual orientation, but yet we’re treated as criminals.
Two strikes! One strike because the black church and community want nothing to do with us. The second strike because society sees us by the color of our skin.
I want every gay man and woman of color to be comfortable their your skin. You are beautiful, and even the words faggot, punk, sissy, fag, dike, lesbo, carpet muncher, bulldagger, tranny, it, can not and will not dim your light.
It’s almost as if people expect for us to apologize for being black and gay. We have two strikes against us. Meanwhile fighting for acceptance from a society that can’t even embrace their own. Why do we have to apologize for being our authentic selves? Is it because they see something that they don’t possess within themselves?
The walk for the average black homosexual is challenging and can also be exhausting. But no matter how difficult the travel get for us. We will always come out on top.
I mentioned two strikes, well how about we go ahead and make it three.
BLACK, GAY, and PROUD!
They want to see you suppressed, hopeless and broken. The moment they see a black gay proud man, it’s almost terrifying for them. “How dare you be black, gay and then on top of that be proud?”
The argument of homosexuality being a choice is an ignorant one. Who in their right mind would choose to face hatred and ridicule every single day of their life? I would so call me crazy, and I’ll do it all again if given the opportunity.
I have a genuine question for the homophobes, “If the shoe was on the other foot would you be able to wear it?”
It’s easy to hate what you don’t understand and judge what you don’t know. You can’t speak on my life because you wouldn’t last a second in my shoes.
The fact that so many black gay men have suffered from homophobia and abandonment. Who would want to live a life of regret and confusion? In my opinion, a person who has been through the fire and came out unburnt. A person who been dragged through the mud but remained cleaned and bruiseless. You can’t fight a flame that will continue to burn even when you try to put it out. We are strong even with three strikes against us.
There was no choice for me for being a black gay man. If there were a possibility to change it, I would rather walk another thousand miles in my shoes. This hasn’t been an easy journey, but I made it. You made it, and we will continue to overcome our two strikes even if given a third one.
Those two strikes against us, haven’t broken our spirits. I think we are undefeated and even with the challenges, we always remain champions.
We deal with racism and homophobia, but still, nothing can break us. We all don’t share the same journey or experiences, and sometimes we throw bold shade. If anything, we all share that spirit of fight, and in numbers, we are powerful, and no amount of discrimination and hatred can touch us.
All we got is each other in this community. Most black gay men have face abandonment from the black family. You could glow rainbows and glitter in your aura, but due to your skin, you’re nothing more than a negro. You can’t go to the black church or black community because you’re a faggot and people in religion will push you away.
Two strikes against us but yet we continue marching and stomping the pavement. Your strikes are no more than stripes of courage and strength. Your strikes are stripes of honor and bravery. It takes a coward to strike a survivor.
My Ex Propositioned Me To Join His “New” Relationship: Black Gay Open Relationships And Why I Refuse To Participate In One!
My ex did, in fact, propositioned me to join his new relationship. This happened last week, and I’m still mind fucked about the whole situation.
We’re Friends, But I Got My Eye On Your Man Too!
I have a problem with fake ass friends. We’ve all encountered these individuals every once in a while, but nothing prepares you for their real agenda.
Once I catch you trying to press upon my man or vice versa, then we have a problem.
NO, I will not join you and your man in bed because he wants to experiment with me and the only way to do that is through you.
NO, I won’t sleep with you whenever you and my friend get into it.
NO, We can’t exchange numbers in case if you two don’t work out so you can get with me.
There are boundaries, and a lot of gay men (in or out of relationships) don’t know their place. People are so comfortable with doing wrong, that they don’t even respect themselves. People will do all types of shit not only behind your back but also right in your face.
He isn’t your SUS, SUS!
Dear Gay Men Of Color: What’s Keeping You Single?
Everybody wants to be in a relationship until they find themselves in a “relationship.” All the drama and childish shit starts to happen, which ruins about 95% of black gay relationships in my opinion.
My issue with black gay men and their need to be in a relationship stem from most of them not being ready for one.
There’s a lot of work that goes into building and then maintaining a relationship.
There’s so much more to relationships than sex and kissing or even cuddling all day. There’s legwork and more work to make it work or even last.
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