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Things Not To Do On Jack’d Or Grindr



I think we’ve all experienced online dating in 2017 or at least by now. Who hasn’t been on jack’d, grindr, or any of the other gay apps?
It’s pretty realistic what to expect from the app, and what the guys are looking for most of the time. Yeah, you have a few guys seeking genuine friendships (sometimes with benefits.) But most of the time, guys are looking for a pleasant sexual encounter. Guys want to get to the bedroom, and in your bedsheets.
Most of the guys are looking for sex only, a quick fuck and go home with a wet leaking ass.
One thing I think people realize quickly when contacting guys on these apps; is that everybody’s intentions are not the same. You have your typical catfishes, the sex addicts, and even the standard no photo DL ghost profiles. Some guys are strictly on Jack’d bored out of their minds at school or work, other guys are looking for legit LTR.
Now if you not sure what LTR stands for it merely means, Long-Term Relationship. In most cases, guys will put LTR if they’re seeking something serious. Every guy is different, and every profile won’t display the same information of course.
So I decided to make this point to share some things I think guys need to stop doing online. Some are straight up obvious from the gate, but overall you guys will understand. I hope you guys can relate, and if you too experienced some of these similar things, share in the comments.
Here’s a list of things that kind of drives me crazy about online apps. Some of these things should be commonly known. But just in case, if you’re unfamiliar or even aware of Jack’d, Grindr, Tinder, etc. You’ll be able to read this article and form your conclusion about the apps.
But I’m just going to share my opinion, and I’m sure you guys will agree with me on a lot of stuff. So let’s get into this post.

Showing Little To No Interests In Messages

Rejection is a hard pill to swallow; especially when you feeling yourself. But one thing you will notice while browsing online is the typical guy that’s just not feeling you, the way you’re feeling them. You get the one line word responses etc… But instead of that little red buzzer going off in your head to step off, some guys will continue to sending unwanted messages.
I can’t stand guys who push for something that just isn’t there. There’s no connection, no feeling, and no vibe. Even after stating the obvious; that you’re just not that interested. Then once that block button is pressed, feelings get pressed as well. Consistency does not work when it’s not a mutual feeling!

Having No Profile Pics!

Nobody likes to talk to a blank profile; let alone an anonymous guy lurking behind one. The moment you sign is the moment you post your actual pictures. I’m not talking about just any type of photos. Not photos of celebrities, your body pics, etc..  You can’t complain about the guys blocking and being rude towards you.
It’s 2017 going into 2018 REVEAL YOURSELF! Nobody cares about you being down low! The whole DL thing will not attract anybody. Most guys will ask that you unlock your photos before contacting them. We all know how annoying it is to deal with this type of guy online.

Writing Guys Who Didn’t Reply To The First Message

There’s nothing more annoying than hundreds of unwanted messages. Not from various of guys but just one weirdo. When nobody responds back to the first message; why continue to message them?
After being ignored for hours and sometimes days, they show up again. This time to curse you out and tell you how much of a whore you are. I mean it can get pretty nasty when guys are rejected.


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Claiming Positions And Roles, You Don’t Practice; Lying About Dick Size!

Gay men can be so deceiving!

Whether if they lie about their sexual roles or their dick size. It’s just lies after lies after lies. While labels are complete distractions to the bigger picture, many go along with it faithfully.

Yeah, it sucks that we judge each other based on labels, but lying doesn’t make it any better. “Masc for masc” type of thing. Nobody wants to be overlooked, But when it comes to being truthful, tell the truth bruh.

Discrimination in the gay community is genuine. We know this already. But when it comes to misleading people, it doesn’t help the situation at all. Yeah, feminine men are usually the bottom of the barrel. Trust me, somebody out there will love you for who you are.


Claiming For LTR But Looking For Quick Hook-Ups

One thing that pisses me off is guys that lie about wanting LTR; when their intentions are only to hook up.
So many guys are playing mind games. It’s not fair, but you got to know how to play the fucking games back as well. Friends don’t seek sex with other friends. So the moment sex is even mentioned, drop that ass like a bad habit.
Don’t waste your time or energy on false hopes and misleading fools. Platonic friendship doesn’t require knowing your dick size or how bomb yo head game is… READ IN-BETWEEN THE LINES!


Nude Photos And Less Profile Information

This is inappropriate to be asking for nudes. Like can you at least fill out your profile information first?
Most guys aren’t looking to be spending more than one night with you. You will notice those are the guys that refuse offer you more. I rather see your face before I see your dick. It’s just common curiosity to introduce yourself with a hello, instead of your dick hanging low in your pics.
We should be able to offer more than our bodies to strangers. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case for most of the guys we encounter online.


Regardless of anything I’ve stated above, remain safe and be cautious and careful of guys you meet online. Everybody does not have your best interest at heart. You have to be cautious at all times. Do not fall for the bullshit, and every guy ain’t worth the time. If you have some things you want to add to the list, leave a comment down below sharing your own. Oh, by the way, I don’t fuck with GRINDR! JACK’D ALL DAY…

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Dear Future Husband



I wanted to write an open letter to my future husband! (Cough cough) Don’t judge me, but I believe that writing things into existence works. 😈 😝 I want you guys also to do this, and write an open letter to your future husband as well.

I believe in manifesting what I want from my imagination to my front door! So it’s possible that I may, or even one of you might meet a potential husband from writing him into your own reality. 😍😘👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨👪❤💯

So check out my dear future husband letter, and I hope you guys consider writing a letter, even if you use mines as an inspiration for your own.

Dear Future Husband,

I know you’re probably never read this on here, but you just may be reading this right now. But I’m writing this letter for you to know, how I feel. I hope you get this before the next fuck boy comes into my life and blocks you. But I know, no matter what. You’ll find your way to me.

I promise I’d never compare you to my past mistakes, nor would I hold you to your own. Nobodies perfect, and we’ve all fucked up a few times, and may even have broken a few hearts. But one thing I can promise is I’ll protect yours and shield it from all the painful experiences you’ve faced, and any doubt you may have at times about our love.

I don’t want you to feel like you can’t love again because I too fear the unknown, and the fear of losing love again may still haunt the both of us. But when I’m with you, I want you to know that every moment will be cherished. I want to hear your heartbeat. I want to stare into your eyes, and see the pain that I can heal, and also be healed from when you look into mines as well. Many times you’ve heard those simple I-love-you’s and had many heartbreaks. But when I say my forever, it’s very well a forever. I promise to stand by you through any storm, pain, or struggle. It’s us against the world, and when everything comes crashing down around us, I’ll be the one to lay my life on the line for us, as I know you will for me.

Our love will change a nation, but also create a foundation in which nobody can destroy or break if they wanted to. These scars you wear, I want to kiss them. I want you to be more than the ideal man for me, I want you to be my best friend. I want to tell you my deepest secrets, without fearing that you’d judge me for my past. I want you to open up to me in ways you’ve never imagined, opening up to any man. I want you to be able to complete my sentences, and I’m able to look at you and tell what it is that you’re feeling. I want to be able to know when you’re scared, so I can be the hero, that you’ve always longed for.

I want us to grow old together, watch our children grow into the respectful adults that I know, we would provide the best for as a team. Not just a duo, but a team that is solid, even during differences and disagreements. I want us to communicate through any problems that may arise in our relationship because neither one of us is perfect. I don’t want to go to bed without sorting out any differences, and arguments between, the two of us.

I want people to be able to see our aura, as we travel the world, and continue to grow deeper in love. Sex won’t be the focus for our love like the childish little men we’ve both wasted time entertaining in our past. When we make love, it will be with a purpose and will provide more than a lustful ending. Our love will be pure, and sincere. I want to be able to reach out my hand at night and feel yours reaching back. I want us to wake up, and the first thing we do is connect eyes. Our morning breath may not be the best, but the fact we’re given another day together would make it all worth it. I want every moment with you to be like it’s our last, so we will always cherish each other that much deeper.

That day we come to meet, face to face I want it to be based on our chemistry, and not how quick you want to fuck me, vice versa.

I want to be able to be vulnerable with you, and not fear you walking away when I get too attached. When you’re sick, I’ll be the one to heal you back to health. When you’re mad, I’ll be the one to make you laugh, and get rid of that frown. When you’re sad, I will be the one to put a smile on your face again. There will be no limits to our love, and distance won’t keep us apart.

You may meet me today, tomorrow, or even next week. But I want you to know that the moment we intertwine, it will be the moment our soul’s tie. We won’t always see eye to eye, but the makeup sex will be phenomenal. Despite your stubbornness and my silent treatments, we’ll be able to laugh about the small shit, instead of holding onto the dumb shit. I want us to bond closer, over our disagreements.

We can check guys out together, and scan the room for sexy men, but keep our hands on each other and on nobody else, even if one of us felt a natural lust for other people. No matter what life may throw at us, we both will be ready for the punches. We’ll build our empire together, and always have each other’s backs until our final days. Even after the end, I want you to remain with me for eternity, and beyond. You have no other choice! You mines, niggggggaaaaa! [LOL]

I love you, and I don’t even know you yet. But I know, when I have you, I won’t ever need for another again.


your future husband.

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Things Straight Guys Don’t Understand About Gays



There are so many things that straight guys don’t understand, or care to know about us. I think if they took the time to understand, then they could be educated on certain things. A lot of times, I find myself speaking with a straight man and realizing they have no IDEA about nothing that goes on in the gay community. On the flip side, most of us don’t enter their worlds either. So on both sides, we kind of lack the understanding of each other. But I think more so on their end due to the fact that many of them want no part with homosexuality. We are more open-minded to befriending our heterosexual counterparts.

There are some things that I feel that straight men don’t understand, and often time ignorantly speak on without getting fact checks and answers from the source itself which is the community.

I’m sure some of you guys can relate to these things and probably could send over a few as well.

I want to start a dialogue, and I want you guys to be active and dive in giving your own opinion on this topic.


No, All Gay Men Do Not Want You, Sir!

A lot of straight men have this belief that being gay equally means we lust after EVERY man. This is far from the truth and is a pretty ignorant way of thinking. We have standards, if most women aren’t fucking with you then more than likely you wouldn’t stand a chance with a majority of us. We are way harsher when it comes to appearances and our types. I think women are more lenient than us gay men.

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Yes, Some Of Your Friends Are In Fact Gay On The Low.

A lot of straight men have this mindset that none of their friends are gay or get down like that. But let’s be real, I don’t care how STRAIGHT you may think you’re friends are, and while you talk bad about us to them. They’re fucking us on the low, and more than likely wanna fuck you too. So don’t assume that you’re CREW is down for the pussy and not the bussy. Because a majority of them like to get, their bussies busted DOWN!

Playing Gay And Doing Gay Shit Don’t Phase Us

No, it doesn’t insult us when we see straight boys doing gay shit. Yeah, some of us may low key be wishing it be with us, but we don’t be phased by that shit. All of you can do all of that locker room gay playing, but I’m sure we’ll end up with one of your buttbuddies on the low.

Who’s The Girl In The Relationship? NEITHER ONE OF US!

Straight men lack the concept of a relationship between two men. They assume that one of us have to play the female role, when in fact it’s not always that way. Some of us don’t even believe in the whole heteronormative practices. Neither one of us is the GIRL in the relationship, sir. We’re no different from you in relationships, just wit the same sex.

Gay Men Only Take It Up The Ass / Wants To Be Women

I hate when straight men think that because we’re gay that we take it up the ass. NO, not all of us “want to be women.” Some of us are in fact happy in our manhood. That’s always the first thought that gay men are weak, and they want to take on the female role, and this is not the case at all. Being day does not mean TAKING DACK. Chile, why do these men not understand that we use our dacks just like them.

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Gay Men Don’t Like Sports, Don’t Listen To Rap Music, Can’t Hang With The Boys.

Some straight men assume that since we’re gay that we all don’t like sports, only listen to “girly” music and can’t hang with the big dogs. We can, in fact, love sports, fuck with rap music, and be able to hang with the big boys. Being gay does not define a person nor does it determines their life in any way shape or form. Sexual Orientation does not represent a man, that’s just our sexual attraction and desires. But our everyday live consist of many things that you straight men do as well. Being gay does not mean you can’t do manly things or be manly.

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There Are Two Types Of Gay Men | Find Out Which One Are You?



I firmly believe that there are two types of gay men in this world. I’m going to explain to you what those types are, and why in a second. I think most of you already know these types and realized you fit one or the other. But we all fall under one of the two categories.

Now we all ain’t freaks, and we all don’t expect certain things immediately. Some guys like to take things slow, get to know a person first, and then maybe reveal their freaky side. While, other gay men are straight at hello by wanting to know how big it is, how deep you can take this dack, and how good them lips feel when putting in some work.

So I’m going to explain to you the two types of gay men that are roaming among us. You decide which one you are as well.


Gays #1 who rather say “hello” first, instead of requesting or sending nudes. They are interested in finding chemistry before making a sexual connection. These men are more so sapiosexual than sexual.




Gays #2 who rather you send nudes first, and save all that other shit for later. They are quick to sending you their nudes and mixing sex into the conversation quite sooner then you’d expect.






Now I understand, Gays #2 like to know what you’re working with before wasting any our time on getting to know you. Talking about your hobbies, dreams, and goals means nothing to them at first. Their minds are set on way more IMPORTANT sexual things.

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Gays #1 Would like to sit and maybe have an intimate conversation over the phone, maybe a dinner date. We prefer intimate connections before going in the sexual route.

While Gays #2 Just rather get to the point and cut all the bullshit. If we fucking, then let’s do it and not spend so much time on pointless conversations.

But I get it, and sex is the critical factor in life for this type of gay man. He doesn’t care about your favorite colors or food of choice. He wants to know whether or not if you can please and satisfy his sexual needs.

Now for most of you guys who are Gays #1 you want to explore the minds of other men, and then maybe entertain sex. But your immediate thoughts aren’t based on sexual needs of your own. You want to know who he is, what he’s about and how the two of you can mesh together. It’s not even about sexual connections at first. You are not looking at his pictures lusting and having the temptation of exploring his body. You don’t function that way, and you probably hate the thought of sex before you even know anything about the person.

Now for Gays #2 immediately you are aroused if this person attracts you. You want to see their bodies and imagine all the sexual shit you both could do together. The moment he rejects your request for sending you naked photos, you are quick to move on and hit up the next guy. You might have had a potential connection with him, but you lost all interest in that very moment of his rejection of nudes. You like to explore your sexual options before investing any time getting to know the person.

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Sex first, feelings and mental connections later. You are not focused on his goals in life or his likes. Although you may actually be interested in him, your primary concern is based on whether or not his sex is good enough for your over-the-top sexual appetite. A sexual connection drives you, and that’s okay. Some guys are more sexual than others, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart. You still have a beautiful spirit, and often you’re misjudged for your sexual nature. Once guys get over the over-sexualized side of you, then they can see the BIG potential. But you do frighten people before they can even think about investing time into you.

I think both types of gay men have special qualities. Some advantages and disadvantages as well. Whether if you want to explore the body first, or if you’re solely relying on mental stimulation. We all have something to offer at some point. Gays #1 don’t judge Gays #2 for being sexual and wanting to see you in the nude. But also Gays #2 don’t lose interest so quick for Gays #1 for needing a mental connection, before exploring your bodies and having a sexual connection.

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