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Does He Love The Real You Or Just The Idea of You?



Many of us want to find “true love,” but sometimes true love doesn’t love the same way.

Some men come with motives and goals outside of your typical relationship goals.

Some men come merely to conquer and destroy whatever ounce of peace you got due to their own unhappiness.

So there’s never really any particular way of finding true love, but when you do, it’s not hard to see.

But if you happen to be dating a guy, and you question some things then maybe this post is for you.

I’m not saying that the guy you’re dating ain’t shit, but I’m just saying. KEEP READING.

Some guys love the idea of you.

Some guys only see themselves with you for gain.

Some guys find gain by making it known that the both of you are together.

Nobody likes to be used but most gay relationships I’ve witnessed end up being a used situation. In most cases, both partners were using each other, which is why the relationship doesn’t last long.

 That’s the harsh reality of most black gay relationships; it’s all smoke and mirrors. What you see sometimes ain’t really what it appears to be beneath the surface. It’s a win-win situation for some, and some play their roles right. But if you could see the real shit in these relationships, you would realize it’s the idea of the guy.

Most guys love the idea of having a man, but once they get one they can’t act right.

They start to cheat.

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Want to argue.




Take out their own internal frustrations onto their partners.

The list goes on and on.

So many things that go wrong in relationships tend to go wrong with these type of couples. You can see through them and their situationship. When a man LOVES YOU, all of those things don’t appear.

I have seen some LOVING COMMITTED black gay couples. I have witnessed TRUE LOVE within this community, but those couples were not seeing each other as again with motives.

Those relationships weren’t for the illusion of having THAT IDEA GUY. They weren’t bragging about their PERFECT relationship to keep up a front. These men just simply LOVED each other. They didn’t need to post it all on Instagram and have all these couples bullshit on youtube. They keep their RELATIONSHIP PRIVATE and their FIGHTS PRIVATE. You’re not going to read about their dispute on FACEBOOOKKKK.

Real couples do not need to display EVERYTHING ONLINE. They don’t need VALIDATION for their relationship ONLINE. CATCH IT!

But at the same time, you have these fake couples, and yes I said it. These people barely like each other, let alone talk shit about each other amongst the same group of friends. The TEA I got is HOT, but thankfully I’m not MESSY.

I won’t pull out my TEA BAGS! I’ll keep that for another day if needed.

But we have to respect the fact that if a man wants you, he will not USE YOU. He will not SEE YOU as anything more than to make as his better half.

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You guys know I’m speaking THE REAL on the real shit that goes on in these black gay relationships. We have to address the real shit for us to fix the error of our ways. This doesn’t just affect me, but it affects all of us. Most people have given up on us, but I refuse to hate what’s apart of me.

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Hello, my name is Anthony! I am 27-years-old. I was born and raised in New Jersey [Joissyyy whattup] I like to consider myself an author at heart with a blogger mindset. I write what's on my mind, and I speak my mind. I'm sensitive about my shit!

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Dear Future Husband



I wanted to write an open letter to my future husband! (Cough cough) Don’t judge me, but I believe that writing things into existence works. 😈 😝 I want you guys also to do this, and write an open letter to your future husband as well.

I believe in manifesting what I want from my imagination to my front door! So it’s possible that I may, or even one of you might meet a potential husband from writing him into your own reality. 😍😘👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨👪❤💯

So check out my dear future husband letter, and I hope you guys consider writing a letter, even if you use mines as an inspiration for your own.

Dear Future Husband,

I know you’re probably never read this on here, but you just may be reading this right now. But I’m writing this letter for you to know, how I feel. I hope you get this before the next fuck boy comes into my life and blocks you. But I know, no matter what. You’ll find your way to me.

I promise I’d never compare you to my past mistakes, nor would I hold you to your own. Nobodies perfect, and we’ve all fucked up a few times, and may even have broken a few hearts. But one thing I can promise is I’ll protect yours and shield it from all the painful experiences you’ve faced, and any doubt you may have at times about our love.

I don’t want you to feel like you can’t love again because I too fear the unknown, and the fear of losing love again may still haunt the both of us. But when I’m with you, I want you to know that every moment will be cherished. I want to hear your heartbeat. I want to stare into your eyes, and see the pain that I can heal, and also be healed from when you look into mines as well. Many times you’ve heard those simple I-love-you’s and had many heartbreaks. But when I say my forever, it’s very well a forever. I promise to stand by you through any storm, pain, or struggle. It’s us against the world, and when everything comes crashing down around us, I’ll be the one to lay my life on the line for us, as I know you will for me.

Our love will change a nation, but also create a foundation in which nobody can destroy or break if they wanted to. These scars you wear, I want to kiss them. I want you to be more than the ideal man for me, I want you to be my best friend. I want to tell you my deepest secrets, without fearing that you’d judge me for my past. I want you to open up to me in ways you’ve never imagined, opening up to any man. I want you to be able to complete my sentences, and I’m able to look at you and tell what it is that you’re feeling. I want to be able to know when you’re scared, so I can be the hero, that you’ve always longed for.

I want us to grow old together, watch our children grow into the respectful adults that I know, we would provide the best for as a team. Not just a duo, but a team that is solid, even during differences and disagreements. I want us to communicate through any problems that may arise in our relationship because neither one of us is perfect. I don’t want to go to bed without sorting out any differences, and arguments between, the two of us.

I want people to be able to see our aura, as we travel the world, and continue to grow deeper in love. Sex won’t be the focus for our love like the childish little men we’ve both wasted time entertaining in our past. When we make love, it will be with a purpose and will provide more than a lustful ending. Our love will be pure, and sincere. I want to be able to reach out my hand at night and feel yours reaching back. I want us to wake up, and the first thing we do is connect eyes. Our morning breath may not be the best, but the fact we’re given another day together would make it all worth it. I want every moment with you to be like it’s our last, so we will always cherish each other that much deeper.

That day we come to meet, face to face I want it to be based on our chemistry, and not how quick you want to fuck me, vice versa.

I want to be able to be vulnerable with you, and not fear you walking away when I get too attached. When you’re sick, I’ll be the one to heal you back to health. When you’re mad, I’ll be the one to make you laugh, and get rid of that frown. When you’re sad, I will be the one to put a smile on your face again. There will be no limits to our love, and distance won’t keep us apart.

You may meet me today, tomorrow, or even next week. But I want you to know that the moment we intertwine, it will be the moment our soul’s tie. We won’t always see eye to eye, but the makeup sex will be phenomenal. Despite your stubbornness and my silent treatments, we’ll be able to laugh about the small shit, instead of holding onto the dumb shit. I want us to bond closer, over our disagreements.

We can check guys out together, and scan the room for sexy men, but keep our hands on each other and on nobody else, even if one of us felt a natural lust for other people. No matter what life may throw at us, we both will be ready for the punches. We’ll build our empire together, and always have each other’s backs until our final days. Even after the end, I want you to remain with me for eternity, and beyond. You have no other choice! You mines, niggggggaaaaa! [LOL]

I love you, and I don’t even know you yet. But I know, when I have you, I won’t ever need for another again.


your future husband.

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Things Straight Guys Don’t Understand About Gays



There are so many things that straight guys don’t understand, or care to know about us. I think if they took the time to understand, then they could be educated on certain things. A lot of times, I find myself speaking with a straight man and realizing they have no IDEA about nothing that goes on in the gay community. On the flip side, most of us don’t enter their worlds either. So on both sides, we kind of lack the understanding of each other. But I think more so on their end due to the fact that many of them want no part with homosexuality. We are more open-minded to befriending our heterosexual counterparts.

There are some things that I feel that straight men don’t understand, and often time ignorantly speak on without getting fact checks and answers from the source itself which is the community.

I’m sure some of you guys can relate to these things and probably could send over a few as well.

I want to start a dialogue, and I want you guys to be active and dive in giving your own opinion on this topic.


No, All Gay Men Do Not Want You, Sir!

A lot of straight men have this belief that being gay equally means we lust after EVERY man. This is far from the truth and is a pretty ignorant way of thinking. We have standards, if most women aren’t fucking with you then more than likely you wouldn’t stand a chance with a majority of us. We are way harsher when it comes to appearances and our types. I think women are more lenient than us gay men.

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Yes, Some Of Your Friends Are In Fact Gay On The Low.

A lot of straight men have this mindset that none of their friends are gay or get down like that. But let’s be real, I don’t care how STRAIGHT you may think you’re friends are, and while you talk bad about us to them. They’re fucking us on the low, and more than likely wanna fuck you too. So don’t assume that you’re CREW is down for the pussy and not the bussy. Because a majority of them like to get, their bussies busted DOWN!

Playing Gay And Doing Gay Shit Don’t Phase Us

No, it doesn’t insult us when we see straight boys doing gay shit. Yeah, some of us may low key be wishing it be with us, but we don’t be phased by that shit. All of you can do all of that locker room gay playing, but I’m sure we’ll end up with one of your buttbuddies on the low.

Who’s The Girl In The Relationship? NEITHER ONE OF US!

Straight men lack the concept of a relationship between two men. They assume that one of us have to play the female role, when in fact it’s not always that way. Some of us don’t even believe in the whole heteronormative practices. Neither one of us is the GIRL in the relationship, sir. We’re no different from you in relationships, just wit the same sex.

Gay Men Only Take It Up The Ass / Wants To Be Women

I hate when straight men think that because we’re gay that we take it up the ass. NO, not all of us “want to be women.” Some of us are in fact happy in our manhood. That’s always the first thought that gay men are weak, and they want to take on the female role, and this is not the case at all. Being day does not mean TAKING DACK. Chile, why do these men not understand that we use our dacks just like them.

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Gay Men Don’t Like Sports, Don’t Listen To Rap Music, Can’t Hang With The Boys.

Some straight men assume that since we’re gay that we all don’t like sports, only listen to “girly” music and can’t hang with the big dogs. We can, in fact, love sports, fuck with rap music, and be able to hang with the big boys. Being gay does not define a person nor does it determines their life in any way shape or form. Sexual Orientation does not represent a man, that’s just our sexual attraction and desires. But our everyday live consist of many things that you straight men do as well. Being gay does not mean you can’t do manly things or be manly.

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There Are Two Types Of Gay Men | Find Out Which One Are You?



I firmly believe that there are two types of gay men in this world. I’m going to explain to you what those types are, and why in a second. I think most of you already know these types and realized you fit one or the other. But we all fall under one of the two categories.

Now we all ain’t freaks, and we all don’t expect certain things immediately. Some guys like to take things slow, get to know a person first, and then maybe reveal their freaky side. While, other gay men are straight at hello by wanting to know how big it is, how deep you can take this dack, and how good them lips feel when putting in some work.

So I’m going to explain to you the two types of gay men that are roaming among us. You decide which one you are as well.


Gays #1 who rather say “hello” first, instead of requesting or sending nudes. They are interested in finding chemistry before making a sexual connection. These men are more so sapiosexual than sexual.




Gays #2 who rather you send nudes first, and save all that other shit for later. They are quick to sending you their nudes and mixing sex into the conversation quite sooner then you’d expect.






Now I understand, Gays #2 like to know what you’re working with before wasting any our time on getting to know you. Talking about your hobbies, dreams, and goals means nothing to them at first. Their minds are set on way more IMPORTANT sexual things.

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Gays #1 Would like to sit and maybe have an intimate conversation over the phone, maybe a dinner date. We prefer intimate connections before going in the sexual route.

While Gays #2 Just rather get to the point and cut all the bullshit. If we fucking, then let’s do it and not spend so much time on pointless conversations.

But I get it, and sex is the critical factor in life for this type of gay man. He doesn’t care about your favorite colors or food of choice. He wants to know whether or not if you can please and satisfy his sexual needs.

Now for most of you guys who are Gays #1 you want to explore the minds of other men, and then maybe entertain sex. But your immediate thoughts aren’t based on sexual needs of your own. You want to know who he is, what he’s about and how the two of you can mesh together. It’s not even about sexual connections at first. You are not looking at his pictures lusting and having the temptation of exploring his body. You don’t function that way, and you probably hate the thought of sex before you even know anything about the person.

Now for Gays #2 immediately you are aroused if this person attracts you. You want to see their bodies and imagine all the sexual shit you both could do together. The moment he rejects your request for sending you naked photos, you are quick to move on and hit up the next guy. You might have had a potential connection with him, but you lost all interest in that very moment of his rejection of nudes. You like to explore your sexual options before investing any time getting to know the person.

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Sex first, feelings and mental connections later. You are not focused on his goals in life or his likes. Although you may actually be interested in him, your primary concern is based on whether or not his sex is good enough for your over-the-top sexual appetite. A sexual connection drives you, and that’s okay. Some guys are more sexual than others, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart. You still have a beautiful spirit, and often you’re misjudged for your sexual nature. Once guys get over the over-sexualized side of you, then they can see the BIG potential. But you do frighten people before they can even think about investing time into you.

I think both types of gay men have special qualities. Some advantages and disadvantages as well. Whether if you want to explore the body first, or if you’re solely relying on mental stimulation. We all have something to offer at some point. Gays #1 don’t judge Gays #2 for being sexual and wanting to see you in the nude. But also Gays #2 don’t lose interest so quick for Gays #1 for needing a mental connection, before exploring your bodies and having a sexual connection.

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