DO NOT JUDGE ME!
I am about to reveal something that I’ve kept hidden for a very long time.
I got secrets…
Some secrets are never meant to be exposed!
But FUCK IT. This is my personal blog, and I’m going to keep it REAL.
I’ve always wanted a sugar daddy for years now. I mean, what could go wrong, when you got a man that’s willing to spend cash on you?
Shit. I know so many guys who’ve had sugar daddies, why can’t I?? Chubby and all. I’m not the type of person that goes out of my way to try to find a man with money. I’m not sugar baby on a mission. I haven’t even dated guys over a particular age yet. I wouldn’t even know how to entertain a man of a certain age. The age gap for me would be awkward as hell. It would be downright fucking weird.
I know plenty of guys who in fact, have sugar daddies on call! A guy I was dating had one. Um, lets not even get into that bullshit, he did it behind my back. And yes, when he explained his situation, I was down for the cause! I ain’t got no shame in my shit. I was down to entertain his sugar papa.
He didn’t want to SPONSOR ME. He said I was too old 🙁 (I’m 27 by the way, and I was 24 at the time. The guy I was talking to was young as hell (18).
Not only did his sugar daddy not want to spend big dollars on me, but the guy I was talking too dropped me completely.
I got played… Yeah, I’ll admit that I took that L. But I bet he doesn’t have a sugar daddy now. I’m pretty sure after he turned 21 that man cut off his funds and credit lines.
But seriously having a sugar daddy can be beneficial in a way or maybe a few, depending on what you’re willing to do in return. I know some guys give up the ass and eggplant for a weekly check, and some bills paid off monthly.
Today, I got a random message on Jack’d. I was thinking that a guy has finally noticed me, and was going to slide in my DMs trying to spit that good shit. But then I saw the message and my SINCERE reaction…
(I don’t fuck with grindr), and it was a random lovely caucasian man. For a second, I had thought the universe was answering my wishes. I already had a few bills paid off in my mind, the moment I saw this message. But then I thought to myself — and I know I am not a damn fool. So it dawned on me, and it clicked — its a scam!
Now I’m going to break down the code so if you don’t get it quick enough, just keep reading it, until you do.
Many of you are already aware of scammers on Jack’d. This should come as no surprise.
Okay, so just like with the regular scams, this is no different at all just a new trick to the game — and I promise you, somebody going to fall for it. But it won’t be my black ass! Not today Satan!!! Smh! Not today!
This is what I think, fuck that, this is what I know! Whoever is behind that account is a genius, but a dummy at the same time. It’s not how you play the game. It’s how you create it. The scammer(s) pretend to be a sugar daddy! Those scammers started off asking if you’re interested in making extra money, but now since that’s pretty much a dub and a fail, they stepping their game up. They want your credit information, wire you funds, mail you a check, etc. I’ve never been scammed nor scammed anybody, so I can’t really speak on this topic too well. But I think it works like that.
[Check this —-> link out, the ladies encountering similar bullshit]
I’m sorry, but you have to be very naive or just plain dumb to get scammed. Being that most of us are aware of these bum ass scams, these individuals have decided to go a new route — with a not so smart plan.
People you have to READ in between the lines. Because nobody writes like that, “I live in the states.” I’ve never heard Americans tell other Americans the obvious! It just doesn’t make any sense. We don’t say we live in America, we mention a STATE and a CITY, but nobody mentions that they live in AMERICA! DAA FUCK.
So I wanted to make this post for you, my loyal readers to watch out for this bullshit. If you happen to be on Jack’d, please don’t get JACK’D behind this sugar daddy bullshit. Bullshit is written all over it. Now I could be wrong, but I’m sticking to my intuition on this one, it looks a little suspect. I’m not falling for the shit today. I’m not here for it. I need these COINS and these fools out here scamming everybody!
But anyway, back to reality and the fact that nobody is going to pay these damn bills for me. But if you have a sugar daddy, please be my referral. A recommendation to the right sugar daddy just might change my current status in life. HA! (joking)
After posting this I received two messages on Twitter in regards to this NEW SCAM! This is, in fact, a SCAM and the message is similar to the one, I have received as well. Read BELOW!
You guys are careful with providing your personal information including mailing address. Do not accept any BANK FUNDS wired or not. These individuals are using new tactics in hopes of committing credit card fraud and other forms of fraud. Contact the authorities if you have encountered these nutcases. This is on the rise, and the fact that others are noticing this is problematic. We have to stay vigilant.
Dear Gay Men In Color: Manifest The Man Of Your Dreams
Manifestation works especially if you know how to go about manifesting your inner power. I do believe that it’s not an overnight wish with results from a cheap ass magic trick. I also believe if you don’t put in the work, you won’t get any results.
I’m not speaking about any love spells, etc. manifestation is powerful if used correctly. But you have to remember that all things usually do happen in due time. Don’t think this will have you finding mr. right today. But then again, anything is possible when you put in the work. Somethings happen out of luck.
The most important step in all of this is journaling your man. You’re probably confused, but keep reading. Basically write what you want — personality type, body type, financial status, etc. whatever type of man you want — write it describing him to the t.
Then write down how you want him to enter your life, and all the great opportunities that could blossom from finding him. You should write it as if you’re building your man.
But please don’t go writing rich, football star, rnb singer, etc. Don’t write the type of man that you know damn well you are not going to find.
We gotta be realistic or the manifestation will not work. You gotta find a man that you can meet half way. If you want something out of your league then you’re wasting your time. Meet a man that is your equal. There’s levels to this shit.
The more serious and realistic your journal notes are about him, the better results you will get from it. So you may end up with the mail man, the janitor down the block, the barber, etc. whoever is meant for you will be in your life. But don’t go reaching to far. Just trust the process.
Manifestation tends to meet us where we are currently or where we may be going in our lives. So a match is formed with the right candidates. So you may end up lucky with a football player if that’s meant for you. But to want a particular type of man that’s not even aligned in your destiny is pointless.
You have to breathe, sleep, dream about him day and night. The more positive you remain the sooner you may run into him. Keep good thoughts and never question the process. Sometimes we block our own blessings by putting negative thoughts into the universe. So whatever you think or feel might be what you will receive.
How I know this works, well because I’ve done it and it works every time. But one thing I know for a fact is keep this dream man to yourself. Do not tell nobody else what you want and journaled. Keep him to yourself because sometimes people may not wish you well.
Do not curve any guys that may come your way. The real man that you want and need, and what GOD may have for you could be anybody. He may not be your actual “desired” type or interest. He might be completely opposite from the type of man you go for. But trust me he is the one for you. I know that sounds like a dream crusher, but it’s reality. Some guys want shit that they know they can’t have, and meanwhile what they need they avoid. The universe won’t send you somebody unless they were meant for a season, a reason, or a purpose.
Jack’d, Grindr, Tinder, And Plenty Of Fish: Do’s And Don’ts And All Things In Between
Being a member of the majority of the popular gay dating apps, I think I got the credibility and credentials to speak on these things. I’ve made few mistakes and dodged a few as well. But one thing I can honestly say is, I still to this day see these errors and ways online.
Online dating for the gay community has advanced in so many ways. We don’t have to do the bathhouses and somebody’s nearby park to meet up. All it takes to meet your match is the stroke of a few keys and some good ol WiFi. But then again maybe social skills for these men wouldn’t be so bad if things would be old school.
You can get access to just about any type of man you want and more. Despite the catfishes and crooks, you’d be shocked how much dack is out there on display. Most people don’t know how to use these resources to pull what they truly want.
So let’s get into these do’s and don’ts when it comes down to these popular gay dating/fucking apps.
First thing is first… you know what you signing up for when you join these apps. Ain’t nobody got time for your tears and complaints. Bitch go join Christian mingle if you feel some type of way about the hoes. Yes, dack pics and shitty ass pics will be on display. Why huff and puff about shit you should already be accustomed to? Shit, Bgclive and Adam4adam have prepared us all for this level of hoeism. You either down for the cause or out without pay. But the hoes will still be hoes and these apps will still be designed with the purpose of sex.
I get it, you didn’t sign up for all of that freakiness. But yo ass didn’t have a problem stroking those keys to find a password selection and join option. Clearly, these things can’t be affecting you that bad if your ass is present.
I’m going to need these down low/DL men to have a seat in the front row of the congregation. I need to talk to some of you real quick. Now if you’re down low, and make these claims of being discreet then what the fuck makes you decide to post these open photos? You claim you not openly gay, but yet you got your face all in these apps. You don’t think yo girl don’t know any active users of those apps? Do you not think women in 2018 not catfishing on these gay apps trying to catch their man on the low in the act?
Messy situation but true, some time ago a down low guy got caught on an app. His girl created a fake page and just so happen to catch him logged in. This fool set up a meet up with his girl and his images were displayed all over the page. Needless to say, I don’t think he’d do that shit again. But seriously, you say you down low so why the hell you got pictures of your face on the app, You don’t think the heterosexual community can’t download and scoop through these apps? Smh.
Now that we got that out the way, I need to address something else. Fellas, please stop with these long ass dragged out profile descriptions. Write a small bio it shouldn’t be any longer than a Facebook bio or even a tweet length. You may be the most educated interesting man on these damn apps, but I’m not about to read novel after novel on these profiles.
What happened to be able to break the shit down and organize the bios? I tend to swipe left on pages after becoming overwhelmed with the lengths of the bios. I don’t wanna read a profile for 20 mins just to get to the bottom and you’ve dismissed fats and fems. I’ve done wasted time and found out I didn’t even qualify.
Blank Profiles… These ghost members who want to play these damn games. Listen, if you hit me up and you don’t have a picture and I ask you to send me one, don’t catch an attitude. You know the game the moment you pressed send with no damn profile pictures in sight. I’m not about to have a blown out conversation without seeing who the hell I’m speaking to on these apps. This doesn’t work like that and ain’t nobody got time for those games. You came to me with no face photo knowing I wouldn’t entertain that shit. How are you going to catch an attitude with me? This applies to the profiles with locked photos. Unlock yo shit!
Favoriting and sending unsolicited nudes… please explain to me why you think because you favorite my page that I’m about to hop on yo dick? Then when I don’t do it, waiting for you to actually write me, you wanna block and get mad?
Also, stop sending these damn unsolicited nude pics. Your dack does nothing for me. I’m sorry, I don’t jump to the sight of a rock hard dack. They all look the same to me and you probably can’t hang. If you wanna get me aroused ass would do quite better. But don’t send me nudes unsolicited period. If you had read my page you would have known I’m not into casual sex.
Read my page before contacting me. Don’t you guys hate when somebody contacts you without reading or even attempting to look at your profile? I can’t stand when guys hit me up and didn’t even take time out to read my page. What annoys me is the fact that I’m chubby I’m not skinny. Guys will hit me up and clearly I state on my page that I’m chubby. We get a conversation going only for them to go ghost after finding out I’m not skinny. Or they ask me to send a full body pic, and I’ll send them my Instagram and then they act stupid dumb. Like hello, my profile states everything you need to know to avoid wasting my time. I could give no fucks about yours if you weren’t genuinely interested in me. Read the profiles before hitting me up. Thanks… management!
Guys online who’s only on to pass time with no interest in meeting up or getting to know anybody. Why the fuck are you on here? Why are you here hoe? In the words of Joseline. You passing time or are you wasting time? Because no level of boredom could have me sit on an app for no reason. That’s pointless shit. A pointless conversation about nothing equals time being spent for nothing. Chile, I guess — keep doing you.
Catfishing + 2018 = FAIL! Like let’s be real it’s 2018 technology has advanced to the highest power. You would think people’s intelligence level would of advanced as well but clearly, that’s not the case here.
There is no reason why people are catfishing or being catfished in 2018. If you don’t get a damn thumbs up picture or even a name tag shot to secure the bag. First of all social media is everything. Okay, he doesn’t have Instagram but he’s on social media in some sort of way. Now if he’s a hood boy piece of trade he may not have any of that shit. That’s the chance you may need to take talking to him. But being fooled only makes you the fool. Be smart.
Scammers scam on but I won’t be one of the fools. People seriously out here getting scammed on these sites. If a sexy guy with fake pics send you a message about bank-wiring receiving funds block and delete. Do not entertain the bullshit, but sadly people are still being fooled.
The list goes on but I got other things to write about. You should know the rest anyway. But we gotta do better on these apps. These apps are nothing new and at this point, Y’all know what to do and not to do. But here is a quick list of dos.
Be interesting and know how to start, hold and carry out a full blown conversation. It makes you look smart even if you not that smart.
Introduce yourself the right way. Make sure you give a name before carrying on a conversation it’s only the right thing to do.
Reply back to people even if you’re not interested. You may make a new friend and god know some folks on these apps need them. Being mean rude and nasty to people will get you nowhere. I don’t care how pretty you are in the face fella! You gotta be humble. It will get you places!
Black Gay Relationship Goals You Should Want To Reach In Your Next Relationship
The black gay community is lacking current relationship goals couples. We’ve seen a few, but they’ve come and vanished over time. Yeah, we have some amazing black gay youtube couples but we could use more positive couples to look up to for hope in this lack or there of the dating scene in our community.
I’m not saying glamorize these people because everything you see on social media isn’t all real. Yeah, all couples have their negative side and go through things. But nobody’s relationship is perfect, no matter how they may try making it appear in public and online. But the genuine love and loyalty are what makes many black gay couples special.
Being a relationship goals couple does not mean fucking men together and swinging in these open relationships. It means setting an example that is barely displayed for us. Many gay men of color admire and look up to these relationship goals and semi-famous couples. Yeah, some of them wanna fuck them and break up happy homes, but not all of us feel that way.
Relationship goals should be solid and unbreakable. Nobody should be able to come in between you and your partner. You both have to keep y’all relationship woes off Facebook and other social media platforms and focus on molding the love. I believe in true love within our community, and despite the obstacles, I believe love is possible.
So I came up with a list of ways that you could make you and your man, relationship goals for the black gay community. I know it’s a lot of pressure and expectations community worth it. We need more influences among us in the community. We need more love displayed without the dysfunctional aspects of black gay couples.
Be Able To Last A Whole Year Together.
Most black gay couples can’t even last a week nowadays. So a whole year is almost a decade in our dating world. Be a true relationship goal for other newly black gay couples. Prove those who doubt love in our community wrong, we can be in healthy longevity relationships.
Reach Out To Other Black Gay Couples And Plan Double Dates.
No, I’m not saying set up couples orgies. But double dates with other black gay couples can give a good impression on social media. We can come together in numbers and make big things happen. Building couple friendships is a relationship goal of mine.
Own A Home, Business, Matching Vehicles.
Black gay couples should focus on owning property together, and build an empire. It should be you and your man against the world. Getting matching vehicles would be cute which is a goal of my own. But seriously, teamwork makes the relationship work. Owning things together and building together shows that we can do more than fuck and fight all day. We can also be power couples as well.
Keep The Relationship Drama Offline And The Relationship Goals Strong Online.
Nobody has time for seeing other black gay couples fighting online. It’s discouraging and just doesn’t give us a good look. We want to put out positive energy for those who inspire to have a strong solid relationship. We’ve seen enough messy black gay relationships pour their breakups and infidelities online.
Shit, you would think enough black gay men admire Beyonce, why wouldn’t they study her marriage. Yeah, we got lemonade and Beyonce doesn’t have the perfect marriage. But you will never see her go deep with the shit and pour the worse of the worse. Some things don’t need to be put out for the public — I mean unless you plan on making millions off of exposing the shit.
Don’t Be Like Other Gay Couples Be Different Be Unique.
Never try to emulate or copy other black gay couples in hopes of being that next big black gay relationship goals couple on social media. You will fail miserably, just be yourself and allow the relationship to be admired naturally. Don’t jump on YouTube with the guy you just started dating several months ago and try to be skeezytv. Build the relationship and if you decide to follow the trend of having a couples channel make it unique. No fake boring ass prank videos or phony how we met story times. If you met on your knees after chatting on Jack’d then say that. But don’t make up this big ass fairytale story because I see through the bullshit and I’m sure others do as well.
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