I don’t think too many of you guys know much about me. I mean, you guys are some of my most loyal readers. I thought it would be cool to reveal some things about myself. Yeah, a little clickbait, these are “open secrets, ” but I think I keep most of my personal life private. But with this blog, I am becoming more open about myself. I think it will make the passion for my writing, even more, stronger, plus you all will be able to relate to me even more.
So let’s get straight to the post and answer all 90 questions. I am going to give my HONEST response to each and every one of the questions down below. There will be ZERO BULLSHIT on here. I haven’t done some PR stunt and reviewed the questions before answering them. I am going to answer these questions as I go down the list. So this should be interesting. There will be no editing of this post, no delete and remove. I look forward to doing more posts like this with more questions soon.
What is your full name?
Anthony… D… Yeah, I am not revealing my full last name. But I will say it’s Portuguese because I am Black and Portuguese. I just don’t need jobs and stalkers trying to find trails online.
Are you named after anyone?
No… But I’m sure someday, somebody will be named after me. The come up about to be trill.
Where are you from?
New Jersey born and raised in a suburb of Philadephia. I don’t get it, the whole suburb of Philly, being that it’s South Jersey. But yeah, South Jersey.
Where do you live?
New Jersey by day and California by night (dreaming…)
Where were you born?
Which of your parents are you closest to?
My Mother. But I love both of my parents equally.
What is your favorite drink?
Cum, it’s good protein. (Joking, I would never swallow.)
What is your favorite food?
I love seafood and soul food. I am also big on Carribean food. I am from Joisyyy, so Italian food is okay.
What is your favorite childhood memory?
My favorite childhood memory is hanging out with my favorite cousins. There was never a dull moment, and no matter what I got their backs.
What is your favorite way to pass time?
My favorite way to pass time is to write. If I’m horny and bored, I’ll get on Jack’d. My DM’s are usually DRY besides the thirst bots blank profiles hitting me up.
What is your favorite sport?
Football because I love looking at the dick prints and all those phat asses on the field. I don’t watch the game; I watch for other reasons. (joking.)
What is your biggest regret?
My biggest regret would probably be the moment I left my ex after he got locked up. 🙁
Are you a fan of any sports team?
Philadephia Eagles and the New Orleans Saints.
Are you a dog person or cat person?
Dog person — cats are too prissy, bitchy, and jealous. I rather have me a few dogs around.
Are you scared of heights?
Yes, but I’m more so scared of statues! I believe in one of my past life’s I must have encountered a damn giant. Even when I look at a picture of a statue I get an uncomfortable feeling of fear.
What is an ideal first date for you?
Something different, unique, unpredictable and rare. If you can shock me, then you’ll have me hooked from day one.
What is something you are gifted at?
Writing and storytelling.
What is something you look for in a partner?
Confidence, respect, and loyalty.
What is something you wish you were gifted at doing?
Singing… because I sing all the time, and If I had the VOICE! Chile, I would be recording every single day. I would be a STAR! But GOD gave me the ability to write, which is even more better.
What is the one item you can’t leave home without?
What is the last books you read?
My Own… Redwood and Deep Inside Him coming soon exclusively for sale on my online store. So make sure you guys stay posted for updates on those two eBooks. FIREEYAAAAHHH!
What is your best physical feature?
What is your biggest accomplishment?
My biggest accomplishment(s) would have to be my blogs — thus far. I must say every blog I created went viral at some point. Those numbers were mindblowing, and I am one of the few black gay bloggers with a history of popular blogs. But I am also one of the few still standing or trying to revamp for bigger and better. I like to consider myself legendary because I’ve been blogging for YEARS — consistently. I’ve seen many come and many go… I’m not new to this shit, and I’m true to it. My work speaks for itself, and I have only gotten better with time. But there is so much more to come. This is just the beginning.
What is your favorite color?
Lime Green and Blue.
What is your favorite ice-cream flavor?
What is your favorite music genre?
What is your most commonly used swear word?
What is your star sign?
Sun – Cancer / Moon – Capricorn / Rising – Virgo /
Do you have a best friend, if so, then who?
Not anymore. 🙁
Do you have a tattoo?
No, not yet, but I want some paw prints going up my leg, and on my chest when I get skinny.
Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?
Cuddling because I don’t want herpes. LOL
What piece of technology can you not live without?
Cell Phone. DA FUCK.
What was the first concert you ever attended?
Keyshia Cole – free concert – 2008 fourth of July. My aunt’s friend was going to fort dix and told us Keyshia was going to be there. I was READY! My favorite artist is KC. I still have the footage from my old camcorder. But here’s a video clip on youtube. I was in the center not too far from the stage.
What was your favorite subject in High School?
GYM and BOYS.
What was your first job?
What is the furthest you’ve ever been from home?
When did you suffer your first heartbreak?
When was the first time you were on a plane?
Atlanta, 2008 for my 18th birthday.
When was the last time you cried?
A few days ago.
When was the last time you got in a fist fight?
Years ago, thankfully. I’m grown now. I leave those fighting days in the past. But don’t run up!
Who is the best teacher you ever had?
Who is the first person you call when something exciting happens?
Who is the first person you call when something horrible happens?
Who is your favorite musician?
Keyshia Cole (then the following… K Michelle, Beyonce, Rihanna)
Who is your role model?
Who was your first serious Boyfriend/Girlfriend?
Aleem my NYC KING! Lol as I used to call him.
Who was your first Celebrity crush?
Describe yourself in a single sentence?
I am a mixture of fun, emotions, and lust.
Have you ever dated two people at the same time?
NO! That’s not my MO. I’m a faithful individual.
Have you ever visited a country outside your continent?
No, but I plan on going to Dubai soon… 😉
How many Boyfriends/Girlfriends have you had?
Short term, too many to count. Long-term serious committed (years of dating) 6 relationships most of them lasted 3 years. I’ve been with boys since I was 13 — don’t judge me.
How many relationships have you been in?
If you could give your younger self any advice what would it be?
Don’t give up. It’s okay to cry, but smile later. Don’t trust so easily. Don’t be so damn naive. Keep your hands to yourself. Don’t hold grudges, learn how to forgive. LET GO AND LET GOD.
What is your most embarrassing moment?
It was kind of personal, but I got into a fight during a threesome with my boyfriend, and his “friend.” I didn’t know that they were low key messing around, but it ended up being revealed during the threesome. We got into a fight, hands were thrown, and I am still trying to erase that memory. Asses were jiggling, dicks swinging, balls bouncing all over. It was a mess. Fighting naked is a NO GO — EMBARRASSING TO THE CORE.
One thing you know now that you wish you had known as a kid?
That everybody ain’t your friend — no matter how much they smile in your face. Their intentions aren’t always good for you.
What app do you use most?
Jack’d for chatting, promoting, and meeting new guys.
What are some of your bad habits?
Cursing, catching an attitude/being in my feelings, being opinionated. I could go on and on, but those are my main bad habits.
What are your favorite things about yourself?
I love everything about me, from my fat stomach and man boobs to my cracked smile and my chocolate complexion. What is there not to love about me? I know who I am, and I have learned to embrace it all — the good, bad and the ugly sides about myself.
What are your hobbies?
Writing, reading… I spend most of my time writing and reading and trying to plot my next moves. I perfect my craft, and I hope it pays off.
What do you consider unforgivable?
What do you do for a living?
I am in between jobs. I was just working at Amazon, and now I’m about to get hired for a new job hopefully. But I hope to become a full-time writer, television producer, and filmmaker within the next 12 months.
What is your philosophy in life?
Fuck what they feel, do what makes you happy no matter what!
If you could, what is the one thing you would change about yourself?
The pain I feel inside. But I’m human, and pain is apart of life.
What is one thing that motivates you to work hard?
My dreams, aspirations, and just having that dream that one day the world will know who I am, and support me. I write to heal, and I know I will heal many people.
Name the biggest complaint you have about you career/job?
I would say the sharks, fakes, and people with broken promises.
What is your proudest accomplishment?
My proudest accomplishment was reaching 1 million views on my blog a few months ago. The fact that my articles went VIRAL and so many people supported and shared my articles, made me proud. Also, I would say that my free eBooks had over 30k views. That was pretty amazing. I have great supporters, and I appreciate every single person who supports my shit.
What is your most favorite book that you have read?
My own, stay posted for them coming soon to my online eBooks store.
Would you prefer going to a cinema or watching a movie at home?
Watching a movie at home, I’m a Cancerian. I need one on one and personal time with somebody is always special to me.
What was your ambition when you were a child?
To become a singer. All of that changed and now I want to become something, even more, greater which is a writer. Being in the ARTS has always been my goal, so both of them were my ambitions.
You will be granted a superpower to know everything about one person, who would it be?
Would you rather ride a horse or motorbike?
Horse… I’m so damn cautious.
What is your favorite song to sing to at Karaoke night?
Love by Keyshia Cole.
What is your favorite radio station to listen in the car?
I listen to my iTunes and Pandora.
Assume that you have to eat only one meal for the rest of your life. What would be it?
How do you characterize yourself; religious or spiritual?
Would you describe yourself as an introvert or an extrovert?
Both. Sometimes I’m open, bubbly, and just free willed. Then other times I want to be alone, in the background and just to myself. I am a Cancerian to the core, so I like a balance of both for different reasons. My mood and vibe play a major role in my choice between the two.
Are you ready to start a marriage life right now? If not, how long you need to prepare?
I don’t want to be married until five years into a relationship. I there are so much I need to learn about a person, and a man would need to learn about me. I don’t think you can learn enough so soon. I give it time, and if it happens then cool shit.
Name the person you can talk to just about anything?
Assume that you are in a very bad mood. Do you want to be alone or have someone beside you?
I want a man beside me if possible, if not LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE! LOL
What would be your dream weekend?
A trip around the world and back. Enough said. LOL, But seriously, my dream weekend would be having somebody to spend it with that I cherish to the core. I wouldn’t want the weekend to end. I’ve had that moment two times. I cried by Sunday.
Do you maintain a journal?
My blog, justbeinganthony.com is my Journal.
For what things you are grateful for your life?
GOD, MY family, good health, love, self-worth.
Do you believe in second chances? Have you experienced them?
Yes, I’m a very nice person. But cross me twice you’re DONE TO ME.
Do people misunderstand you? If so for what do they do so?
Yes, I’m very misunderstood for different reasons. Everybody encounter with me is different. But for the most part, I try to have people take away something positive. But that’s not always the case because I’m human, and I’m not perfect all the time. But for the most part, I try to be nice and treat people how I would want to be treated. But if you’re RUDE, MEAN, HATEFUL, IGNORANT, CRUEL, SELFISH, etc. Don’t expect to have a good encounter with me. BLUNT! I’ll be professional at all times, but you will feel my vibe and energy towards you will reflect what you’re giving me.
What would be your perfect vacation?
Anywhere, Any Place, Anytime with the right people around me. NO BAD VIBES!
Have you ever felt an adrenaline rush? If so when was the last time you felt it?
Yeah, and it was not a good thing. KIDS DON’T FIGHT… KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF. LOL
What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
Threesome inside a park bathroom.
Would you do an incredibly dumb thing for your lover?
Yes, make a sex tape. LOL
A genie granted you three wishes that cannot be undone. What are the three things you would wish for?
LOVE. HAPPINESS. PROSPERITY.
Do you regret anything you have done in your past? If so, what is it?
Yes… A LOT OF THINGS. I had a rough upbringing and went through a lot of painful experiences. I’ve made some decisions that were not the best choices. I’m grown now, and I have learned a lot from those past situations. I’m not perfect, and I can’t pretend to be either.
Dear Gay Men In Color: Manifest The Man Of Your Dreams
Manifestation works especially if you know how to go about manifesting your inner power. I do believe that it’s not an overnight wish with results from a cheap ass magic trick. I also believe if you don’t put in the work, you won’t get any results.
I’m not speaking about any love spells, etc. manifestation is powerful if used correctly. But you have to remember that all things usually do happen in due time. Don’t think this will have you finding mr. right today. But then again, anything is possible when you put in the work. Somethings happen out of luck.
The most important step in all of this is journaling your man. You’re probably confused, but keep reading. Basically write what you want — personality type, body type, financial status, etc. whatever type of man you want — write it describing him to the t.
Then write down how you want him to enter your life, and all the great opportunities that could blossom from finding him. You should write it as if you’re building your man.
But please don’t go writing rich, football star, rnb singer, etc. Don’t write the type of man that you know damn well you are not going to find.
We gotta be realistic or the manifestation will not work. You gotta find a man that you can meet half way. If you want something out of your league then you’re wasting your time. Meet a man that is your equal. There’s levels to this shit.
The more serious and realistic your journal notes are about him, the better results you will get from it. So you may end up with the mail man, the janitor down the block, the barber, etc. whoever is meant for you will be in your life. But don’t go reaching to far. Just trust the process.
Manifestation tends to meet us where we are currently or where we may be going in our lives. So a match is formed with the right candidates. So you may end up lucky with a football player if that’s meant for you. But to want a particular type of man that’s not even aligned in your destiny is pointless.
You have to breathe, sleep, dream about him day and night. The more positive you remain the sooner you may run into him. Keep good thoughts and never question the process. Sometimes we block our own blessings by putting negative thoughts into the universe. So whatever you think or feel might be what you will receive.
How I know this works, well because I’ve done it and it works every time. But one thing I know for a fact is keep this dream man to yourself. Do not tell nobody else what you want and journaled. Keep him to yourself because sometimes people may not wish you well.
Do not curve any guys that may come your way. The real man that you want and need, and what GOD may have for you could be anybody. He may not be your actual “desired” type or interest. He might be completely opposite from the type of man you go for. But trust me he is the one for you. I know that sounds like a dream crusher, but it’s reality. Some guys want shit that they know they can’t have, and meanwhile what they need they avoid. The universe won’t send you somebody unless they were meant for a season, a reason, or a purpose.
Jack’d, Grindr, Tinder, And Plenty Of Fish: Do’s And Don’ts And All Things In Between
Being a member of the majority of the popular gay dating apps, I think I got the credibility and credentials to speak on these things. I’ve made few mistakes and dodged a few as well. But one thing I can honestly say is, I still to this day see these errors and ways online.
Online dating for the gay community has advanced in so many ways. We don’t have to do the bathhouses and somebody’s nearby park to meet up. All it takes to meet your match is the stroke of a few keys and some good ol WiFi. But then again maybe social skills for these men wouldn’t be so bad if things would be old school.
You can get access to just about any type of man you want and more. Despite the catfishes and crooks, you’d be shocked how much dack is out there on display. Most people don’t know how to use these resources to pull what they truly want.
So let’s get into these do’s and don’ts when it comes down to these popular gay dating/fucking apps.
First thing is first… you know what you signing up for when you join these apps. Ain’t nobody got time for your tears and complaints. Bitch go join Christian mingle if you feel some type of way about the hoes. Yes, dack pics and shitty ass pics will be on display. Why huff and puff about shit you should already be accustomed to? Shit, Bgclive and Adam4adam have prepared us all for this level of hoeism. You either down for the cause or out without pay. But the hoes will still be hoes and these apps will still be designed with the purpose of sex.
I get it, you didn’t sign up for all of that freakiness. But yo ass didn’t have a problem stroking those keys to find a password selection and join option. Clearly, these things can’t be affecting you that bad if your ass is present.
I’m going to need these down low/DL men to have a seat in the front row of the congregation. I need to talk to some of you real quick. Now if you’re down low, and make these claims of being discreet then what the fuck makes you decide to post these open photos? You claim you not openly gay, but yet you got your face all in these apps. You don’t think yo girl don’t know any active users of those apps? Do you not think women in 2018 not catfishing on these gay apps trying to catch their man on the low in the act?
Messy situation but true, some time ago a down low guy got caught on an app. His girl created a fake page and just so happen to catch him logged in. This fool set up a meet up with his girl and his images were displayed all over the page. Needless to say, I don’t think he’d do that shit again. But seriously, you say you down low so why the hell you got pictures of your face on the app, You don’t think the heterosexual community can’t download and scoop through these apps? Smh.
Now that we got that out the way, I need to address something else. Fellas, please stop with these long ass dragged out profile descriptions. Write a small bio it shouldn’t be any longer than a Facebook bio or even a tweet length. You may be the most educated interesting man on these damn apps, but I’m not about to read novel after novel on these profiles.
What happened to be able to break the shit down and organize the bios? I tend to swipe left on pages after becoming overwhelmed with the lengths of the bios. I don’t wanna read a profile for 20 mins just to get to the bottom and you’ve dismissed fats and fems. I’ve done wasted time and found out I didn’t even qualify.
Blank Profiles… These ghost members who want to play these damn games. Listen, if you hit me up and you don’t have a picture and I ask you to send me one, don’t catch an attitude. You know the game the moment you pressed send with no damn profile pictures in sight. I’m not about to have a blown out conversation without seeing who the hell I’m speaking to on these apps. This doesn’t work like that and ain’t nobody got time for those games. You came to me with no face photo knowing I wouldn’t entertain that shit. How are you going to catch an attitude with me? This applies to the profiles with locked photos. Unlock yo shit!
Favoriting and sending unsolicited nudes… please explain to me why you think because you favorite my page that I’m about to hop on yo dick? Then when I don’t do it, waiting for you to actually write me, you wanna block and get mad?
Also, stop sending these damn unsolicited nude pics. Your dack does nothing for me. I’m sorry, I don’t jump to the sight of a rock hard dack. They all look the same to me and you probably can’t hang. If you wanna get me aroused ass would do quite better. But don’t send me nudes unsolicited period. If you had read my page you would have known I’m not into casual sex.
Read my page before contacting me. Don’t you guys hate when somebody contacts you without reading or even attempting to look at your profile? I can’t stand when guys hit me up and didn’t even take time out to read my page. What annoys me is the fact that I’m chubby I’m not skinny. Guys will hit me up and clearly I state on my page that I’m chubby. We get a conversation going only for them to go ghost after finding out I’m not skinny. Or they ask me to send a full body pic, and I’ll send them my Instagram and then they act stupid dumb. Like hello, my profile states everything you need to know to avoid wasting my time. I could give no fucks about yours if you weren’t genuinely interested in me. Read the profiles before hitting me up. Thanks… management!
Guys online who’s only on to pass time with no interest in meeting up or getting to know anybody. Why the fuck are you on here? Why are you here hoe? In the words of Joseline. You passing time or are you wasting time? Because no level of boredom could have me sit on an app for no reason. That’s pointless shit. A pointless conversation about nothing equals time being spent for nothing. Chile, I guess — keep doing you.
Catfishing + 2018 = FAIL! Like let’s be real it’s 2018 technology has advanced to the highest power. You would think people’s intelligence level would of advanced as well but clearly, that’s not the case here.
There is no reason why people are catfishing or being catfished in 2018. If you don’t get a damn thumbs up picture or even a name tag shot to secure the bag. First of all social media is everything. Okay, he doesn’t have Instagram but he’s on social media in some sort of way. Now if he’s a hood boy piece of trade he may not have any of that shit. That’s the chance you may need to take talking to him. But being fooled only makes you the fool. Be smart.
Scammers scam on but I won’t be one of the fools. People seriously out here getting scammed on these sites. If a sexy guy with fake pics send you a message about bank-wiring receiving funds block and delete. Do not entertain the bullshit, but sadly people are still being fooled.
The list goes on but I got other things to write about. You should know the rest anyway. But we gotta do better on these apps. These apps are nothing new and at this point, Y’all know what to do and not to do. But here is a quick list of dos.
Be interesting and know how to start, hold and carry out a full blown conversation. It makes you look smart even if you not that smart.
Introduce yourself the right way. Make sure you give a name before carrying on a conversation it’s only the right thing to do.
Reply back to people even if you’re not interested. You may make a new friend and god know some folks on these apps need them. Being mean rude and nasty to people will get you nowhere. I don’t care how pretty you are in the face fella! You gotta be humble. It will get you places!
Black Gay Relationship Goals You Should Want To Reach In Your Next Relationship
The black gay community is lacking current relationship goals couples. We’ve seen a few, but they’ve come and vanished over time. Yeah, we have some amazing black gay youtube couples but we could use more positive couples to look up to for hope in this lack or there of the dating scene in our community.
I’m not saying glamorize these people because everything you see on social media isn’t all real. Yeah, all couples have their negative side and go through things. But nobody’s relationship is perfect, no matter how they may try making it appear in public and online. But the genuine love and loyalty are what makes many black gay couples special.
Being a relationship goals couple does not mean fucking men together and swinging in these open relationships. It means setting an example that is barely displayed for us. Many gay men of color admire and look up to these relationship goals and semi-famous couples. Yeah, some of them wanna fuck them and break up happy homes, but not all of us feel that way.
Relationship goals should be solid and unbreakable. Nobody should be able to come in between you and your partner. You both have to keep y’all relationship woes off Facebook and other social media platforms and focus on molding the love. I believe in true love within our community, and despite the obstacles, I believe love is possible.
So I came up with a list of ways that you could make you and your man, relationship goals for the black gay community. I know it’s a lot of pressure and expectations community worth it. We need more influences among us in the community. We need more love displayed without the dysfunctional aspects of black gay couples.
Be Able To Last A Whole Year Together.
Most black gay couples can’t even last a week nowadays. So a whole year is almost a decade in our dating world. Be a true relationship goal for other newly black gay couples. Prove those who doubt love in our community wrong, we can be in healthy longevity relationships.
Reach Out To Other Black Gay Couples And Plan Double Dates.
No, I’m not saying set up couples orgies. But double dates with other black gay couples can give a good impression on social media. We can come together in numbers and make big things happen. Building couple friendships is a relationship goal of mine.
Own A Home, Business, Matching Vehicles.
Black gay couples should focus on owning property together, and build an empire. It should be you and your man against the world. Getting matching vehicles would be cute which is a goal of my own. But seriously, teamwork makes the relationship work. Owning things together and building together shows that we can do more than fuck and fight all day. We can also be power couples as well.
Keep The Relationship Drama Offline And The Relationship Goals Strong Online.
Nobody has time for seeing other black gay couples fighting online. It’s discouraging and just doesn’t give us a good look. We want to put out positive energy for those who inspire to have a strong solid relationship. We’ve seen enough messy black gay relationships pour their breakups and infidelities online.
Shit, you would think enough black gay men admire Beyonce, why wouldn’t they study her marriage. Yeah, we got lemonade and Beyonce doesn’t have the perfect marriage. But you will never see her go deep with the shit and pour the worse of the worse. Some things don’t need to be put out for the public — I mean unless you plan on making millions off of exposing the shit.
Don’t Be Like Other Gay Couples Be Different Be Unique.
Never try to emulate or copy other black gay couples in hopes of being that next big black gay relationship goals couple on social media. You will fail miserably, just be yourself and allow the relationship to be admired naturally. Don’t jump on YouTube with the guy you just started dating several months ago and try to be skeezytv. Build the relationship and if you decide to follow the trend of having a couples channel make it unique. No fake boring ass prank videos or phony how we met story times. If you met on your knees after chatting on Jack’d then say that. But don’t make up this big ass fairytale story because I see through the bullshit and I’m sure others do as well.
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